To get a stray cat to come to you, the best approach involves patience, gentle behavior, and often food to build trust. Begin by placing strong-smelling cat food and fresh water near the cat's location at the same time daily to establish a routine and let the cat associate you with safety and nourishment. Use a soft, gentle voice and avoid making direct eye contact, which cats perceive as threatening. Crouch down or sit to appear less intimidating and allow the cat to approach you on its own terms. Avoid rushing the interaction; let the cat sniff and get comfortable with your presence, gradually moving closer over time. Using synthetic feline pheromone spray on your clothing can also help the cat feel more at ease. Never offer milk, as many cats are lactose intolerant. If the cat appears fearful or hesitant, giving it space while consistently providing food and water is key until it feels safe enough to come near you.