A narcissistic mother is a mother who displays traits of or has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) . Narcissistic parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and are threatened by their childrens growing independence. They consider that the child exists solely to fulfill the parents needs and wishes, resulting in a pattern of narcissistic attachment. Narcissistic mothers often use their children as props or devices to meet their own needs, and they will be extremely sensitive to criticism, manipulate their children, and constantly play the victim. Narcissistic mothers prioritize their needs and crave admiration, often lacking empathy for their children, including their daughters. They may use manipulation and control tactics, such as gaslighting and guilt-tripping, and struggle to respect boundaries, invading their children’s privacy and autonomy. Children of narcissistic mothers often feel unsupported, underappreciated, and disregarded, and they never feel good enough. They may develop an insecure attachment and fear that their partner does not want to be as close as they would like them to be. Narcissistic parenting adversely affects the psychological development of children, affecting their reasoning and their emotional, ethical, and societal behaviors and attitudes. Here are some common traits of a narcissistic mother:

• Inflated sense of grandiosity and entitlement
• Arrogance
• Lack of empathy
• Manipulation and control tactics
• Sensitivity to criticism
• Belief that she deserves special treatment
• Use of her children to advance her own goals and wishes
• Criticism and belittling of her children
• Charm and affection in front of other people
• Chastisement, punishment, and discipline of her children
• Constantly seeking attention, praise, and validation from others
• Creating a façade of being a loving and supportive mom

If you suspect or realize that your mother may be a narcissist, it can be freeing to have that realization. However, it is important to seek help and support to cope with the pain that comes with having a narcissistic mother.