"What lips my lips have kissed, and where, and why" is a poem by Edna St. Vincent Millay, first published in 1920 in Vanity Fair. It is an Italian sonnet, made up of one octave and one sestet, with a turn in the middle. The speaker reflects on her previous lovers, all of whom she has forgotten. She describes what parts of her memory have been lost, "what" her lips have kissed, "why" they kissed, and "where" they kissed. She continues in this way, informing the reader she cannot recall "what arms have lain / Under my head". The rain of present-day is bringing out ghosts though, and they listen at her window, hoping she will notice and remember them, but she does not. The poem ends with the speaker comparing herself to a lonely tree in winter, not knowing what loves have come and gone.