When someone dies, it can be difficult to know what to send to offer condolences. Here are some ideas for gifts to send instead of flowers:

1. Donate to a charity: This is a popular alternative to sending flowers. If the family doesnt supply a charity, consider one that would be meaningful to the deceased and leave a gift in their honor.

2. A self-care basket: This can include items like bath bombs, candles, and other items that promote relaxation and self-care.

3. A photo album: Putting together a photo album of the deceased can be a thoughtful and meaningful gift that the family can look back on.

4. A handwritten sympathy card: A heartfelt letter expressing your condolences can be just as meaningful as any gift. When you write your condolences, express your sympathy and offer your thoughts, prayers, or support to help them through this time.

5. Meals: Sometimes the best gift you can give is help with daily tasks that a grieving person isn’t able to handle at the moment. You can offer to cook meals for them or send them gift cards to a food delivery service.

6. A tree or a shrub: A living plant can be a meaningful way to honor the memory of the deceased.

7. Jewelry: A piece of jewelry can be a lasting reminder of the person who passed away.

8. Help with the funeral: You can offer to help with tasks like cleaning the house, doing yard work, or getting the kids to and from school.

Remember that the sentiment is what counts when giving a condolence gift, and its important to include a meaningful note with whatever you give. This can be as simple as writing "Im thinking about you" or recounting a happy memory you have of the person who died.